When couples are separating or divorcing the prospect of ongoing interaction with each other might be less than appealing. When couples have children, however, it is not only desirable but important and unavoidable. Children continue to need both parents in their life.
It is important for parents to find strategies to improve communication, facilitate access and be able to take stock of both their own emotions and the feelings and reactions of others who are impacted by the separation or divorce. Paying attention to the above issues can help ensure that the particulars of any parenting plan that is developed can meet the needs of the child. There are many different types of parenting plans that can be tailored to meet the unique challenges that each family is dealing with.
Bitter, lengthy disputes can have a negative impact on children’s well being and sense of security. Some family professionals suggest that it may be easier to reduce conflict after separation and divorce if parents focus on separating their parental roles from conflict between the spouses. Maintaining a healthy relationship between parents after separation and divorce may be easier if both work towards meeting common parenting goals. And having this support from both parents can help children face the challenges that come with separation and divorce.
Parents have a right to be kept informed about important decisions in a child’s life, even when the child doesn’t live with them. Unless a court decides not to allow it, either parent has a right to ask questions and get answers about matters concerning their child’s health, education and wellbeing.
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Children benefit greatly from seeing their parents cooperate. Research shows that if parents communicate in a cooperative manner children adjust much better to the separation... They must not be put in the middle of their parents’ arguments and/or fights as this can be
damaging. Cooperative ways of communicating means that parents are more likely to agree upon routines regarding children’s day-to-day life. This can be very beneficial for children. Routines can be useful in ensuring children feel safe and secure and allows children to develop to their full potential. Children benefit from feeling that the world is a reliable place.
– Supporting your Children during and after Separation: www.dadsrus.co.uk